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Single Mom Money Management   THE NUMBER ONE CHALLENGE single moms face is money. In survey after survey of my single mom followers, finances is the most pressing challenge, the one that creates the most stress and the most conflict with exes, and what holds single moms back from being the parents, romantic partners, and women they want to be. If your bank account is low, your credit is a mess, you are miserable at work, and you are stuck in your stressful money situation, you are far, far from alone.   Also, you're not materialistic or greedy for prioritizing money. Money, even more than health, it can be argued, is the most important part of life. Make no mistake: More does not automatically mean more, and extreme affluence is not the goal (though it is a very good goal, and if that is yours, go for it with abandon . Then invite me on your private jet, OK?). However, not having enough , or not feeling like you have enough, affects your emotional and mental health. In turn, this stress affects your ability to thrive as a person, enjoy motherhood, and be an effective parent. Fear of poverty can interfere with wise career choices, and keep you stuck in a low- paying job that you hate. That further sucks your energy and well- being. Buying into pressure to work all the time can warp your priorities, get in the way of an exercise routine, or keep you back from investing in self- care, like the occasional evening out with cherished girlfriends or a trip to invest time with your extended family. If you feel broke, you likely don't feel great about yourself, and that will impact the types of men you attract and date. And if you are poor, you are likely not to have access to quality health care or healthy food, which increases the chances that you will be sick now, and dependent on your children sooner than later.   So, never, ever be ashamed about prioritizing earning, saving, and growing your money. In fact, I urge women to own their love of making, saving, and growing money.   Say it out loud: I love making money! Having money is fun and important! Building wealth feels AWESOME!   If you spend about forty- five seconds on Google, you will find very accurate statistics about single moms and money. Fact: Single mothers are poorer than married mothers, and poorer than women without children, and poorer than pretty much all men.   More facts: There are 10 million single mother-headed families with kids at home in the United States. That is a quarter of families, and 40 percent of babies born today. Those figures are about to explode, as a full 57 percent of millennial moms are not married. And they are not all broke and uneducated. Far from it.   Of the 64 percent of millennial moms who have babies outside of marriage, two- thirds are college educated, and a third have four or more years of higher education. That is far from surprising if you consider the strides women overall have made in the past half century. Today, women make up the majority of college undergraduate students, our participation in the labor market is closing in on men's, and 40 percent of families are headed by breadwinner women. In a single generation, the pay gap has narrowed significantly, and more and more women are leading businesses large and small. Thank you feminism! Yay women!   As women overall enjoy more professional and financial success, so, too, do single moms. No one said it would be easy, but it is getting easier every day--from a logistical and financial standpoint-- to raise a child without a romantic partner. It is no wonder that the fastest-growing type of single mom is the single mother by choice, women who tend to be older and more professionally established than unmarried moms overall, and who have the financial means to consciously choose a single mom family.   In sharing these facts I do not intend to minimize about the very real challenges of raising children without a spouse or committed partner. Rather, I share them to put into perspective exactly what those challenges are for single moms, and to urge you to be very conscious about where you put your energy. It is true that in the United States we lag behind many developing countries when it comes to affordable child- and health care, parental leave, and paid time off. Generational poverty and education inequality are no joke. Spend any time researching the embarrassment that is our social welfare system and you will find yourself in tears.   But one of the tenets of being a Kickass Single Mom is to focus your energy on what you can control. You and I alone, today, cannot change policy and reallocate federal spending to prioritize affordable health care or stagnant wages. The Democrats and various advocacy groups have been on this mission for decades! Universal, affordable, quality childcare will not happen in the foreseeable future in the United States, as much as you and I want to see it, and as much as we must continue to fight for it.   However, there are three critical components to thriving financially as a single mom, all of which you can control :   1. Use the time + money + energy = abundance formula in every part of your life. More on this later.   2. Create a lifestyle that you can afford now (not when you were married, or where you hope to be in two years. Now.). This includes a savings plan for emergencies and retirement.   3. Focus on earning. Excerpted from The Kickass Single Mom: Create Financial Freedom, Live Life on Your Own Terms, Enjoy a Rich Dating Life--All While Raising Happy and Fabulous Kids by Emma Johnson All rights reserved by the original copyright owners. Excerpts are provided for display purposes only and may not be reproduced, reprinted or distributed without the written permission of the publisher.