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Fifteen brilliant writers explore how what we don't talk about with our mothers affects us, for better or for worse.

In the bestselling tradition of The Bitch in the House, What My Mother and I Don't Talk About is an anthology about the powerful and sometimes painful things that we can't discuss with the person who is supposed to know us and love us the most.

In the early 2000s, as an undergraduate, Michele Filgate started writing an essay about being abused by her stepfather. It took many years for her to realize what she was actually trying to write about: the fracture this caused in her relationship with her mother. When her essay, "What My Mother and I Don't Talk About," was published by Longreads in October of 2017, it went on to become one of the most popular Longreads exclusives of the year, and was shared on social media by Anne Lamott, Rebecca Solnit, Lidia Yuknavitch, and many other writers, some of whom had their own individual codes of silence to be broken.

The outpouring of responses gave Filgate an idea, and the resulting anthology offers an intimate, therapeutic, and universally resonant look at our relationships with our mothers. As Filgate poignantly writes, "Our mothers are our first homes, and that's why we're always trying to return to them."

Contributors:
Cathi Hanauer
Melissa Febos
Alexander Chee
Dylan Landis
Bernice L. McFadden
Julianna Baggott
Lynn Steger Strong
Kiese Laymon
Carmen Maria Machado
André Aciman
Sari Botton
Nayomi Munaweera
Brandon Taylor
Leslie Jamison



About the Author

Michele Filgate

Michele Filgate is a contributing editor at Literary Hub and the editor of What My Mother and I Don't Talk About, an anthology based on her Longreads essay. Currently, she is an M.F.A. student at NYU, where she is the recipient of the Stein Fellowship. Her work has appeared in Longreads, The Washington Post, The Los Angeles Times, The Boston Globe, Refinery29, Slice, The Paris Review Daily, Tin House, Gulf Coast, The Rumpus, Salon, Interview Magazine, Buzzfeed, The Barnes & Noble Review, Poets & Writers, CNN.com, Fine Books & Collections Magazine, DAME Magazine, The Brooklyn Quarterly, Time Out New York, People, The Daily Beast, O, The Oprah Magazine, Men's Journal, Vulture, Vol. 1 Brooklyn, The Star Tribune, The Quarterly Conversation, The Brooklyn Rail, and other publications. She teaches creative nonfiction for The Sackett Street Writers' Workshop and Catapult and is the founder of the Red Ink literary series. In 2016, Brooklyn Magazine named her one of "The 100 Most Influential People in Brooklyn Culture." She's a former board member of the National Book Critics Circle.



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