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A funny, sexy, and wildly entertaining look at the rewards of fully realized desire in the life of one ordinary woman.At 43 years old, Pamela Madsen was happily married to the man she fell in love with at 17. She was the mother of two sons and had a successful career as a nationally known advocate for fertility issues. But she felt a growing sexual restlessness and yearning that wouldn’t let up. And though Pamela loved her husband and didn’t want to have an affair, she knew deep down that she needed more, much more. In Shameless, she tells the story of how she found it—and not only kept her marriage intact but made it stronger than ever.In this fearless memoir, Pamela tells the story of her search for sexual, personal, and spiritual wholeness.
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Why I wrote Shameless and a Little bit About Me:Maybe it's a congenital disorder. Maybe it's something I learned as an itty-bitty baby. But when I find something wonderful or liberating or even mildly helpful, I can't keep my mouth shut. Even my mother, the original unfiltered talker, marvels at my compulsion to spill the beans whenever I'm on a mission.Over the past four years, I took a pretty zany voyage from an honest-to-goodness repressed, monogamous, middle-aged, hyper-achieving, chubby woman with two kids to an honest-to-goodness monogamous, middle-aged, accomplished chubby "sex goddess" with two kids. Once I owned up to my deepest, untapped desires, I discovered a wellspring of happiness and self-confidence inside me that extended to every part of my life. Whoa! I thought. This is incredible! Everyone should know they have the power to experience life in all its richness right now, just as they are. No diets, no plastic surgery, no nothing. Just intact, healthy sexuality. If I can stop warring with my weight and workaholism, I think most people can. I know that when I stopped denying my hearty and normal sexual appetites, I started losing my uncontrollable urges to overeat, overwork and over-compensate. For the first time, I could relax in my own skin. Admitting your desires takes a tanker-load of courage, and a rip-stop web of support. That's what I'm here to provide. That's my mission. That's why I wrote SHAMELESS.Even if it's a bit outside the box for a respected advocate in the infertility field, I believe it is essential to speak up about healthy sexuality. With few nonprofessional people willing to speak openly about the power of sensuality, the average sexually curious person is stuck with textbooks or fictional characters that they can enjoy but can't emulate. I ain't no "Cougar Town" Courtney Cox. Most men I know aren't starring in "Hung". But it doesn't mean we can't feel as sexy. And when we feel that sexy, that good about ourselves, when we feel we deserve pleasure, and lots of it, that's when so many things that seemed impossible can become our new reality. As Dr. Christiane Northrup so succinctly put it, "Pleasure is a life-changer." Who better to write a tell-all about allowing pleasure to change your life than a woman who lived it and can't keep a secret? Yeah, I know. I'm shameless.I am best known as a "pioneer" in fertility advocacy whose raw honesty, indefatigable will and sense of humor has helped lift "infertility" from a whispered curse to a pop culture cause célèbre. I leveraged her own struggles with and triumph over reproductive challenges into a national organization that successfully supported the family-building rights of all people. Through my own story - I am trying to rallying women to live the full and integrated lives that are possible only when they embrace their sexu
