About this item
We all need emotional blinders: the etiquette that keeps society smoothly moving depends on it. But when you absolutely must rely on another person, you have to be able to assess them objectively. Red Flags shares simple strategies anyone can use to spot deceptive, or downright dangerous people, who use ingratiation and social convention to draw in and lull victims.Readers will learn how even the most skeptical of us use rose-colored lenses on those around us, in three sections: -Blinded by Desire-from the alluring lenses of attraction and positive attention to the blindness of marital "bliss" and the distorted lens of delusion -Overlooking Red Flags in a Professional Setting-how reassuring proximity and the false security of credibility and similarity can lead to costly mistakes -Be Afraid of What You Can't See-the ultimate cost of wearing emotional blinders around the truly disturbed/criminal, from sexual predation to domestic abuse, stalking and cyberstalkingReaders will learn how to: -Avoid selective attention -Observe people over time (bad guys rely on first impressions) -Ask questions: most people's favorite topic is themselves -Cybersleuth to verify information and track down inconsistenciesYou need this book if you: -Want to know if a potential boyfriend is trustworthy -Are interviewing or hiring new employees -Are selecting anyone to take care of your children -Are lending money or property -Have partners in business.
About the Author
Wendy L. Patrick is a San Diego County Deputy District Attorney, recently named the 2014 Ronald M. George Public Lawyer of the Year by the California State Bar's Public Law Section. She has also been recognized by her peers as one of the 2015 Top Ten criminal attorneys in San Diego by the San Diego Daily Transcript. She has completed over 150 trials ranging from hate crimes, to domestic violence, to first-degree murder. In her current assignment in the Special Operations Division, she handles sensitive cases involving public officials, officer involved shootings, and attorney misconduct. In her previous assignment in the Sex Crimes and Human Trafficking Division of the San Diego County District Attorney's Office, Dr. Patrick prosecuted sexually violent predators, human traffickers, stalkers, rapists, and child molesters. She is co-chair of both the statewide California District Attorneys Association Sexually Violent Predator Committee, and Human Trafficking Committee. Her doctoral thesis for her PhD focused on the psychology of attraction used to seduce victims and their families. She has been involved with the San Diego Domestic Violence Council, the San Diego Child Protection Team, and the Sexual Assault Response Team, from whom she received the SART Response with a Heart Award based on her significant contribution to the professional field of sexual assault prosecution. On a personal note, Dr. Patrick holds a purple belt in Shorin-Ryu karate, is a concert violinist with the La Jolla Symphony, and plays the electric violin professionally with a rock band, performing both locally and in Hollywood.
