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A REESE WITHERSPOON x HELLO SUNSHINE BOOK CLUB PICK"A hands-on, real talk guide for navigating the hot-button issues that so many families struggle with."--Reese Witherspoon A revolutionary, real-world solution to the problem of unpaid, invisible work that women have shouldered for too long.It started with the Sh*t I Do List. Tired of being the "shefault" parent responsible for all aspects of her busy household, Eve Rodsky counted up all the unpaid, invisible work she was doing for her family -- and then sent that list to her husband, asking for things to change. His response was... underwhelming. Rodsky realized that simply identifying the issue of unequal labor on the home front wasn't enough: She needed a solution to this universal problem. Her sanity, identity, career, and marriage depended on it. The result is Fair Play: a time- and anxiety-saving system that offers couples a completely new way to divvy up domestic responsibilities. Rodsky interviewed more than five hundred men and women from all walks of life to figure out what the invisible work in a family actually entails and how to get it all done efficiently. With four easy-to-follow rules, 100 household tasks, and a figurative card game you play with your partner, Fair Play helps you prioritize what's important to your family and who should take the lead on every chore from laundry to homework to dinner. "Winning" this game means rebalancing your home life, reigniting your relationship with your significant other, and reclaiming your Unicorn Space -- as in, the time to develop the skills and passions that keep you interested and interesting. Are you ready to try Fair Play? Let's deal you in.



About the Author

Eve Rodsky

This was a book I was born to write. I grew up on the lower east side of New York City with my mother Terry and my brother Josh. I saw my mother struggle as a single mom trying to do it all. I vowed that when I grew up, I would have an equal partner in life . . . and I did! I marked up his operating agreements as he grew a new business and he help me secure my dream job in philanthropy. We took turns making dinner and doing laundry. It felt great and fair. Cut to two kids later and I found myself sobbing on the side of the road because of a text my husband sent me: "I'm surprised you didn't get blueberries." As I sat in my car, I thought to myself: I'm so overwhelmed I can't even manage a grocery list (when I used to manage a team of employees) --and more importantly, when did I become the default for every single household and childcare task . . . including apparently being the fulfiller of my husband's smoothie needs? This was not how I envisioned my life. I knew something had to change. So I embarked on a quest to find a solution for domestic rebalance not only for my marriage but for couples everywhere.I started my journey into the "gendered division of labor" (and other related phrases like "emotional labor" and the "second shift") by reading every book and article I could get my hands on. I was aware that women shoulder about two-thirds of the work required to run a home and raise a family but I wasn't sure why. Early on in my research, I came across an article titled "Invisible Work," written in 1987 by sociologist Arlene Kaplan Daniels. In it she argues that women's unpaid "invisible" work in the home is often not seen as "work" at all and is significantly devalued. The article had a real impact on me and informed my initial quest--which was to make the invisible domestic tasks I did visible to my husband. My thinking was that it is impossible to value what's invisible and I believed visibility would equal value. So I created a "Sh*t I Do" spreadsheet. With the help of women across the country, I catalogued every single action I took in service of my family that had a quantifiable time component. But here's the thing--while the "Shit I Do" list illuminated how much invisible work women were doing for their families, the list also seemed to provoke more rage (and scorekeeping!) than change. I soon realized that my expertise in family mediation, law, and organizational management could be applied to this problem--to create a system to promote sustainable change and get past the resentment and rage. Fair Play is a system tested by couples from all walks of life. At its core is a card game--where couples each hold domestic task cards representing all that it takes to run a home and raise a family.I advise highly complex family organizations. For more than a decade I have worked to bring solutions for family harmo



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