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"The most crucial relationship advice book since Men Are from Mars." —Erin Meanly, Glamour.com Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love is a brilliant interactive relationship tool that can help couples stop arguing and begin healing. Couples therapist Nancy Dreyfus hit upon this revolutionary practice during a particularly angry couples-therapy session in which a wife's unrelenting criticism of her husband was making him more and more emotionally withdrawn. Suddenly, Dreyfus found herself scribbling on a scrap of paper, "Talk to me like I'm someone you love," and gesturing to the husband that he should hold it up. He did, and within seconds, the familiar power differential between the two shifted, and a gentler, more genuine connection emerged.



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Nancy Dreyfus

Nancy Dreyfus, Psy.D.,I'm a psychotherapist, former journalist and teacher and student of metaphysics who started out a self-conscious bookworm in a tense, glamour-oriented household in Metuchen, New Jersey. I used to wonder as a teenager whether there was "some book out there that told you what to say to people." I had little awareness that "relating" required a Self.As a graduate of The Columbia School of Journalism and prize-winning reporter, I managed this sense of invisibility by crusading for the oppressed. When I was 25, I actually was offered a job expanding this niche at The New York Times...about the same time The Universe offered a competing option: An assignment to write an exposè of a spiritual group gave me an unimagined experience of simply feeling whole. When an admired editor told me I had written something incredibly mediocre, and astonishingly, I felt no familiar diminishment, I promptly left journalism and decided to spend the rest of my life exploring ways to access and sustain the identity that made that possible.A psychotherapist now for over 25 years, I see myself as a kind of transpersonal scout, helping people let go of external structures that no longer fit and orienting them to what it means to live a life based on their own insides. A phrase I like in this regard is Trust in Being. I'd say that the whole atomic sub-structure of Talk To Me Like I'm Someone You Love is that trusting in one's own Being will automatically optimize relationality.I believe that human beings are just beginning to learn what it means to be truly human and that we have many different parts--and the trick is to feel these parts without losing our Inner Grown-up. I believe I bring clarity and heart to the growth process,and that my openness about my flaws and limitations serves my clients, students and readers as well as my strengths.I live, work and do my thinking in Wynnewood, Pennsylvania where I practice walking my talk with the man in my life I now love. http://www.nancydreyfus.com



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